Coffee Talk

Monday, January 29, 2018

Happy Monday!  If we were having coffee together, here's what I would share... 

J was able to come home from the hospital Friday afternoon. It has been so nice to have him home after five days of being a solo mom. He was so happy to be at home and just rest without someone coming to check his vitals every two hours. We still don't know a full diagnosis and have no idea what is really going on but we are happy to have him home. This weekend we just hung out and caught up on tv shows.

For Christmas I asked for a Jay and Jewels bar necklace. Well I am in love with it and now want a name and initial necklace. The quality is amazing and you can personalize your necklace to what you like. 

I am on a Freezer meals kick here lately. I have been searching the internet and pinterest for recipes that I can make ahead and just dump in the crockpot. Since having Charlee I want to spend more of my time in the evenings with her and less worrying about dinner. I think next time she goes to grandma's house I am gonna do a major haul and get lots of dinners in the freezer.

I purchased this tee from Target last week and I am going back online to order one in every color. I love the fit and how it doesn't cling to my body. I dressed it up with black dress pants and a long necklace.  

Since we did have so much couch time this weekend I started looking and planning a beach trip for this summer. I really want to take Charlee so she can see what it is all about. Her momma is a total beach bum and I hope that she is too. Daddy hates the beach but two overpower his one. 

                               I wish you lots of coffee and good days this morning!

Friday Favs

Friday, January 26, 2018

Happy Friday!  I can't believe this week has already come and gone. This means that it is time for another weekend and another Five on Friday! 

One. Please stop everything that you are doing and say a prayer for this family today. They having to say goodbye to this sweet little girl. She has fought a long hard battle and had some recent setbacks that she hasn't been able to recover from. This little girl is so precious and so brave. If you would like to give to this family you can find the go fund me here.

Two. Speaking of prayers... we need a little headed our way too. J was admitted to the hospital Monday with some viral issues. He does not have a spleen which is most of your immune system and being a Nurse Practitioner in the hospital is very dangerous for him. They are thinking that he caught a virus from a sick child in the er and how he is having a lot of medical issues. The also found a mass in his pancreas that we will have to deal with after the virus is taken care of. 

Three. I turned the big 3-0 Saturday. Even though J was sick he surprised me with a nice couples massage and lunch just the two of us. That was perfect and we meet up with some friends for a dinner at a local Mexican restaurant. It was the perfect low key 30th Birthday. I even got to take a nap on the couch with Charbear. 

Four. I have been reading a book lately called The Magic of Motherhood. This book yall.. I am having a hard time lately realizing that motherhood is about giving yourself grace. It so far is teaching me to relax and enjoy each season that we are going through. With all these poor children having health problems I have been on edge and sad that something like that may happen to us one day. It just breaks my heart that the thing we worked the hardest for may be taken away one day... It just scares me!

Five. Yall Char has done so well with sleep this week. I am so excited that we are finally getting back on track with that. She had a cold then started teething so sleep.... well didn't happen. It took a few nights of crying before we got back on track. I am starting to maybe see the light at the end of the tunnelllllll.

Have a great weekend loves!

Ten Things I've Learned Since Becoming a Mom

Thursday, January 25, 2018

Now that Charlee's First Birthday has come and gone I thought that I would share a few things about motherhood that she has taught me throughout this first year. 

1. No matter how much you want it you will never have that carefree feeling again. It doesn't matter how much fun you have in a situation you will not ever be able to totally stop thinking about your baby. You could have grandma keep the baby who raised 13 kids you still won't drop your role as a mom. The carefree feeling goes out the door as soon as you see those two solid lines.  Taking care of a living, breathing person—one you love more than anything in the world is the biggest job you’ll ever have and there are always things to worry about and always responsibilities to jump on as soon as that babysitter touches the door to walk out.

2. You can read every book in the world and you still won't know that the hell you are doing. I read a million.... I knew my birth plan, my feeding schedule, and how I wanted my baby sleep at night. Yeah lets just say everything changed as soon as I walked through those double doors at the hospital. My birth ended up in a csection, she ended up being formula feed, and she slept in a rock n play in our room for eight weeks. In most people mother’s intuition kicks in and your baby will survive from having an inexperienced caretaker, I promise. 

3. You will never leave the house with hand sanitizer and baby wipes. I now keep both of these in my car in a bag. Germs are everywhere and you will go through about 1 million baby wipes in the first six months. I also keep a extra change of clothes, a blanket, and Motrin in the car too. I can remember when Charlee didn't feel good she projectile vomited on me and her while we were eating. I was covered in vomit. We both went to the car and stripped of all our clothes. I sat in the back seat covered in the blanket stripped down to undies and a bra. That was a interesting ride home.....

4. Sleep deprivation doesn’t end EVER. I didn’t realize I would remain sleep deprived even after Charlee started sleeping 12 hours straight at night. But the truth is, when she goes to bed at about 7:30pm, that’s when I finally get to do some things around the house. Or make dinner. Or work on this blog. Or you know, just have a real moment to myself. There’s so much I want to get done in that short window of time between his bedtime and my bedtime. But you know what I’ve also learned? How to cover up those dark circles and how to survive on little sleep. Or atleast try to survive...

5. Experiences and holidays are so much better now. Children bring a joy to your heart that you never even knew you lacked. Now I love doing things to see the joy and excitement on Charlee's face. She gets excited and you can tell that it takes up her whole body with excitement. Holidays make you happy because they are happy.....

6. You will look at your spouse in a new light. I love the look at Charlee's face when she hears the alarm beep and J walks through the door. She excitement and his excitement because she is excited... Oh it melts my heart in a thousand pieces.

7. You never expect things to go perfect again. Listen having a child is the best thing ever. You get them and yourself on a schedule. You get the moons aligned and just like they get sick or a sleep regression happens and your whole world comes crushing down. You did all this work of letting them cry it out for nothing. Just to do it again and then your heart breaks again....

8. Don't ever think that you can get out of the house on time ever again. You need to tell yourself ten minutes earlier and then you may get somewhere on time. When Charlee was a baby we would be about thirty minutes behind now we have knocked about twenty minutes off that time. Just because you have to change her and yourself about three times.... and of course the bow and shoes add so much extra time.

9. You will learn that you have many new superpowers that you didn't know you had before. You can multitasking like a crazy person. You never knew that you could feed the baby while doing your hair and makeup while making a dr's appt. You will learn to function on just the right amount of sleep... aka none! You can hear the child from a mile away. You know when the last time the had a bottle and pooped but you can't remember the last time that you ate.  Oh the joys! 

10. That life will never be the same. But in the most amazing of ways. Yes, it’s hard. Really freaking hard! But that child will bring the most joy and real purpose into your life. What used to be fun doesn’t sound fun anymore because your life has changed and you’re in a new season of life. Your heart will love in a way that you didn’t know it could. You’ll feel prouder than ever before… of your child and of yourself for creating such a splendid tiny person. And if you’re like me, you’ll be absolutely terrified to ever have more children because you know it will all get exponentially harder when you do, but at the same time, you really just want eight more kids because your heart feels so full it could burst and that scares the shit out of you because you didn't know such a tiny person could bring that much joy to your heart. 

What have you learned?

charlee margaret | 12 months

Wednesday, January 24, 2018

we made it a whole year!  
still in disbelief and in a total coma after our fun family celebration! its amazing how much this little charbear brings to our family, and although we definitely want another, if the Lord doesn’t bless us in that way, this little girl completes our family  perfectly.  and she’s awesome.


Charlee has a handful or more of words that she says. Momma, Dadda, Hey, Hi, Bye, Good, Yeah, and No.

She’s so quick to move from one place to another.. she rarely wants to be held these days, and fights until she has broken free of whoever is holding her. Charlee's walking has turned more into a run over the past few weeks. She is fast and keeps up with everyone for the most part. Little girl doesn't like to be left out. She will book it behind you so she can see whatever you are doing. 

LOVES to sit in my lap.  when I am sitting on the floor, she will get about a foot from me and then turn around and back herself up until she hits my legs and then plop right down.  it puts me into giggles every time.

she loves to dance and will dance to even the shortest tune. This girl added the bending of the knee booty movements this month with her dancing. It is so Hilarious to watch. She also recently added bopping her head back and forth with the music. It is cracks me up. 

This girl really is smart and picks up everything that you are doing. She watches and has figured out a lot of things that most kids her age doesn't. 

she has this FUNNY fake laugh and cough.  she does it when she’s looking for some attention. If you say oh no charlee are you sick??? She covers her mouth with her hand and  coughs. It is the cutest thing ever. 

She has the silliest personality. When she likes something she claps and squeals in excitement. She likes all the attention being on her. She gets even more giddy when people are watching and paying attention to her. 

Charlee loves her little school mates and playing all day with them. She plays so well with other kids and loves to share already. 

She just moved to size three diapers and wear 9-12m clothes. Some 12m pants for length.


last week I thought for sure Charlee was going to be done with bottles. But when we got to her 12m well visit he weight was the same as the previous month. We decided to move her to the toddler formula in addition to meals.  she is only taking about 4 bottles during the day and I have been sitting her in her highchair to eat three meals.  trying to get her acclimated for when we do toss the bottles for good.  I have learned that with Char, she has to be focused to eat- table food or bottle.  I cant just plop her down for a bottle in the middle of active playtime. I have to completely remove her from everything and offer it and she will usually take it and suck down the entire eight ounces.  same with the table food.  if she is tired or distracted she has a really hard time with it. 

daily feeding/solids schedule:

 6:30 am: 6oz toddler formula
7:30 am: breakfast (cinnamon toast and yogurt)
9:30 am toddler formula
11:30 am: lunch (whatever daycare feeds her)
2:30 pm Toddler formula
3:30pm: snack (puffs + yogurt melts + fruit + granola bar)
6pm: dinner (protein + starch + vegetable + yogurt)
7pm: bath
7:30pm: bed + toddler formula

Charlee is so hard to feed. She is starting to become picky and has texture issues with some foods. I continue to offer her the same foods over and over in hopes that she will get over the texture problems. This girl loves guac and taco bell is the way to her heart. She only eats when she is hungry and the other half of the time she is running none stop. 


We have been on the struggle bus lately with sleep thanks to teething and being sick but I think we may be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Part of it is she needs to cry it and re-sleep train herself. She was getting herself in the habit of waking up so I would come in there and comfort her but a few nights of crying for a few minutes and she was back to sleeping again. 

Typical sleep Routine
wake: 6:30am: Get ready for school and bottle
nap #1: 9:00 - 10:00
nap #2: 1:00pm-2:30-3pm 
bedtime: 7:30pm
we are still taking 2 naps and don’t see that changing anytime soon. Even though Dr. M said we needed to drop that first nap by 15 months.

P L A Y / D E V E L O P M E N T

she’s growing and developing SO QUICKLY!  she picks up on many things that the big kids in her class do, so its easy to understand. she is really into baby dolls right now.  We got Charlee her very own baby doll for Christmas.  she takes care of that baby non-stop!  giving it the paci, burping it, and feeding it the bottle. she is also starting to acknowledge babies in pictures and on the television!  so sweet.  
she points at everything. she started to point out family members and friends in pictures and if you ask her where someone is she will look in that direction and respond with a grunt or the cutest cooing should.  along with the handful of words she puts on repeat, she is communicating much more this month.  understanding that nodding her head yes or no will get our attention to know what exactly she wants/needs.  she also really lets you know when she is hungry or thirsty. 
She also have figured out that she can get different answers from different people. She knows that her BB won't say no to any request of hers. While mommy and daddy would usually say no way to something. 

Sibling Thoughts

Monday, January 8, 2018

I can't believe I'm typing the word "sibling", but it is definitely something that has been on our minds and hearts lately.
 Charlee is turning one this week and there has been a lot of talk about adding another baby to this circus. 
Not right now becuase well I'm not crazy but in the next year or two.
 The questions and thought about it that is can I put myself through another round of infertility battles. I know that we can get pregnant and have a successful pregnancy now. But will we have the same issues as last time and how to do you deal with it. Will it be completely different and we will get pregnant on the first medication cycle or will it be another five years of the whats, whens, and whys? 

Two years ago I never even thought that we could get
 pregnant or that it was even a possibility. I remember giving myself a pep talk and saying that this was it. It was the last time that I was trying 
to get pregnant the last medications and shots.
 I was done! 
Whatever happens was going to happen. Either in two weeks were going to have a negative pregnancy test and stop trying or I would be pregnant and the last five years would actually be for something... or someone! 
 But now we have the miracle that we prayed so hard and long far.
 Do you want to actually put ourselves through the process and take away from the angel that we have now. 

I really want her to have a sibling so she has that bond and connection with someone forever even after mommy and daddy are gone. Ya'll I don't know what to do. We know we want to have another baby but do we put ourselves through the fertility battles again??

Please tell me your thoughts and if you dealt or are dealing with this.....

new years resolutions 2018

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Here we are three days into 2018 already.... Where does the time go. I wanted to take the time before the hustle and bustle of Charlee's birthday weekend gets here to document my 2018 new years resolutions. This year is different than the ones before. I will have a old year and a week later I will say goodbye to my 20's and embark on my 30's. These are the things that I hope to accomplish this year.

* This year I want to make it a priority to get healthy and down to my ideal weight. Life took over and before I knew it my body had changed a lot and not for the better. Before I got pregnant with Charlee I started working out with a trainer and lost 20lbs in a month. I want to get back into that be able to feel good about myself. 

* I want to do a major closet clean out. I trash the clothes as I lose. I don't want to get back into the habit of knowing that I have clothes to lean on. I want to spend more for better quality clothes that last. No more cheap clothes just to get me by! 

* I want to become a better mom and wife. I know that there are things that I need to work on and some of those stem from my childhood. I am working on myself so I can be better for my people. 

* Read more... I love to read a new book or two every month. I am currently reading The Unveiled Wife which will help grow my marriage more than words can say.

* Lastly I would like to grow my relationship with the Lord. 

What are your resolutions?

Year in Review 2017

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

Oh 2017, you came and went before I could catch my breath. This really has been the best and worst year ever. I received my biggest blessing so far and became a mom but at the same time I have struggled finding my true identity and loosing myself in being a mom. It has truly been a struggle for me finding that balance of work, being a mom, being a wife, and have friends/ family time. 2017 was busier and better than every any other year and I know next year I will be saying the same. 

We kicked off the year with the greatest moment of 2017 hands down:: Welcoming baby Charlee.

In February we were attempting to navigate the whole parenthood thing. 


Charlee went to her first crawfish boil and air show. She also went to daycare for the first time and celebrated her first St. Paddy's Day. 



By April we kinda had the parenting thing down or at least we though since we still don't know what we are doing. Charlee met the Easter Bunny

Charlee grew like a weed and learned how to giggle uncontrollably  and sit up


Charlee got her ears pierced and learned how to crawl. I also learned how cute a baby tush is in air at night. 


Charlee celebrated her first 4th of July. We also celebrated her 6 months of life. 


I realized in August that life was flying by and I didn't like it. Charlee learned a lot this month and we realized how smart she really was.

We attended the MM ball and had a night out on the town. Which is exactly what this mom needed.

In October Charlee went as Tinker Bell for Halloween and learned that she could walk if she tried really hard. 



In November we celebrated Thanksgiving with friends and family. 


In December it snowed, we saw Santa multiple times, and we celebrated Christmas a lot.



Man this year has been such a blessing. I grew as a mom and person. I have hopes that 2018 will be even better! I hope everyone had a great 2017 and I look forward to what 2018 has for us!

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